Before the books, there was this. A blog started in 2005 by a woman in a Pennsylvania suburb who needed someplace to put her thoughts, to speak into the void: the kaapi going cold on the counter, the wait for children who had not yet arrived, the office badge, the ache for Madras in December.
I wrote about everything. God and grief, murukku and marriage, the twins learning to walk, the pregnancy that made us five, the reading at midnight, the journey to becoming myself in a country I chose. I wrote to be found, the truth is it never was.
For years these entries floated unlinked, each one an island. This page is the harbor: every thread below is listed with the post that began it, and the closers carry you onward from there.
Follow one from its first post and you will watch a life assemble in real time. Or wander. The journal does not mind.
The Collections
- COVID-19 Diaries · a near-daily record, March 2020 to June 2021
- Letters to My Daughters · letters across fourteen years
- Watch Them Grow · a fourteen-year time-lapse of childhood
- Work and Worth · banking, quitting, and what came after, 2009–2023
- Friendship in the Middle Years · making, keeping, and missing friends, 2011–2022
The Inner Life
- Introspections · 16 posts, 2008–2011 · begins with On the brink
- New years and gratitude · 24 posts, 2008–2020 · begins with Leaving the past behind
- Reclaiming myself · 6 posts, 2011–2013 · begins with Being reborn
- Seasons, noticed · 8 posts, 2011–2014 · begins with Blue no more!
- On turning forty · 10 posts, 2015–2018 · begins with On turning forty and things like that
- Womanhood, embodied · 4 posts, 2015–2017 · begins with Giggles, Wiggles and Jiggles
- Deep winters · 5 posts, 2019–2023 · begins with Deep Winter
- The body at midlife · 5 posts, 2019–2022 · begins with Things We Don’t Talk About
- The astrology study · 5 posts, 2021–2022 · begins with Astrotalk: The Long And The Short Of It
The Family Years
- The wanting years · 6 posts, 2009–2019 · begins with Ever happen to you?
- Before the adoption · 3 posts, 2009–2017 · begins with Colored thoughts
- Anniversaries · 12 posts, 2009–2022 · begins with Bashful? You bet not!
- Grief and remembering · 24 posts, 2009–2024 · begins with Hope and Grief – Twin emotions
- The first year, 2010 · 11 posts, 2010 · begins with The journey home
- Twin toddler days · 6 posts, 2011–2014 · begins with Vignettes
- The 2014 pregnancy journal · 9 posts, 2013–2014 · begins with Changes
- The fourth trimester · 5 posts, 2014 · begins with Hunkering down
- School milestones · 2 posts, 2014–2017 · begins with Warning: Hurt feelings ahead
- Birthdays · 7 posts, 2014–2020 · begins with Shhh! Surprise!!
- Saathi · 3 posts, 2015–2017 · begins with Gifts of attention
- The family I came from · 3 posts, 2015–2016 · begins with Full circle
- Mother’s Day, every May · begins with Reflections on Mother’s Day
- Deepavali and Navarathri, every autumn · begins with Light up your life – Happy Deepavali!
- The documentary years (Love Chaos Kin) · 7 posts, 2017–2026 · begins with Of Stories And Storytellers
- Mommy B · 7 posts, 2016–2026 · begins with Open Adoption – Reflections On The Journey
Rooted and Uprooted
- Faith and devotion · 5 posts, 2007–2010 · begins with Sarvam Krishnarpanam!
- Desi immigrant life · 6 posts, 2009–2010 · begins with Generations apart
- From the kitchen · 14 posts, 2009–2015 · begins with Intangible joys
- Nostalgia for home · 6 posts, 2011–2014 · begins with Oddly at home
- Home rhythms · 5 posts, 2011–2013 · begins with Embracing my inner domestic goddess
- India trips · 10 posts, 2015–2021 · begins with Overwhelmed
- Domestic days · 4 posts, 2018–2019 · begins with The Making Of A Home
- Roots and home · 3 posts, 2019–2020 · begins with Spaces
Watching and Reading
- Book reviews · 15 posts, 2008–2022 · begins with Dreams From My Father – Thoughts
- At the movies · 5 posts, 2009–2011 · begins with Slumdog Millionaire – My take on it.
- Desi cinema · 3 posts, 2012–2014 · begins with English Vinglish Happy Vappy
- Pop culture · 4 posts, 2014–2017 · begins with Understated, Elegant, Queenly.
- Music and fandom · 6 posts, 2018–2026 · begins with All My Life In One Walk
- On screen · 4 posts, 2019–2022 · begins with Zindagi Gulzar Hai – Entrenching Patriarchy
- The joy thread · 5 posts, 2024–2025 · begins with Summer 2024: Rediscovering Joy
The World Outside
- Social commentary · 4 posts, 2016–2017 · begins with The Spectacle That Is Death
- Civic rage · 4 posts, 2020–2024 · begins with The World Is Burning
- They See Blue · 9 posts, 2020–2026 · begins with They See Blue – Desi Blue
- The Steve Jobs arc · 3 posts, 2010–2012 · begins with A thread that binds
- The election aftermath · 3 posts, November 2024 · begins with Letters To My Daughters: I Am Sorry
The Blog Itself
- About this blog · 20 posts, 2009–2022 · begins with I owe you
- Everyday vignettes · 22 posts, 2009–2017 · begins with A peek through my window
- NaBloPoMo · 7 posts, 2010–2015 · begins with NaBloPoMo?
- Tags and polls · 3 posts, 2010 · begins with Q & A – Just for you Shalu
- The writing journey · 3 posts, 2015–2017 · begins with The Write Life
- Yale Writers’ Workshop, June 2018 · 11 posts, 2018 · begins with YWW Journal: Prep Work
And a few loose pages that belong to no thread at all: Reflections on reading (2011) · Perils Of Judging From Afar (2019).