Remembering to forget

Most days somewhere between the time I wake and my coffee, I think about what date it is. It normally reminds me of birthdays, anniversaries or special memories associated with the day. I think about the person or persons, events, places that hold a place in my heart for that day before moving on. Some days like today, I remember and then I try to ignore.

For years now, I have wished without regard to whether or not the recipient reciprocates or appreciates that I thought of them. For me it was about celebrating the fact that I remembered and loved them. That there was an earthquake that year this day. That it will be eleven years of togetherness.

Today though as I pause to remember, I also pause to think if it was worth holding it all in my mind like I do? Is it worth reaching out without reciprocation? Somewhere deep within something demurs. So, I switch on the stove and try to go on ignoring the call of GMail. I try to remember to forget.


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6 responses to “Remembering to forget”

  1. That’s a gift, a precious gift, in the age of FB and Twitter! So nurture it. For those who do not reciprocate, just remind yourself why you are wishing them – only because you like celebrating people.

    1. Maha, That was the reason I did it for 10 yrs now. Somehow, I feel like I have reached the end of my rope with some relationships. In theory though I wholeheartedly agree with you.

  2. mark 26th jan in your memory and wish my daughter enKay:).

    I like that what you and maha said- you are celebrating the people, though the reciprocation makes it sweeter and richer, celebration is a clebration. continue it..

    1. Shy, I already did that. I told myself I would replace the anniversaries I carried in my mind with your daughters birthday. 🙂

  3. I second Maha. Our action should not be a reflection/reaction of others but what we want to be. How (and if) they reciprocate or respond is not your concern and should not be too…

    1. Hmm! Putting it that way does make sense. Paavi manam kekalaiye. 🙂

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