For years, this scene from a Tamil movie has been stuck in my head, an early precursor of what families are like. Noisy, complicated and messy. The imagery of a shattered mirror to depict fractured relationships has stuck in my mind rising to the fore each time a relationship falls apart from the weight of expectations … Continue reading Shattered Mirrors And Onions
I sat across my friend at the local Indian restaurant. Our plates full and the tables too close together. I tried hard to not notice our neighbor giving us a little too much attention. We sat, her and I, talking about our daughters and exchanging notes on the local elementary school. This lunch would have … Continue reading Love In The In-Between Spaces
Laddu clings to my knees, screaming with a vehemence that takes me by surprise. The sauté pan with the hot oil waits for the seasoning. The freshly cooked rice cools on the adjacent stove, the pearly grains emitting wispy spirals. The lunch boxes are open on the other side of the counter. I pick Laddu … Continue reading Up and Down, Around and Around – The Carousel of Life
The phone rings a few times before her voice comes on the line. Reassuring. Available. Just there for my taking. We exchange pleasantries. We talk about what we cooked, how we slept, minor aches and pains, the cost of medicines, the cost of a kilo of tomatoes. We talk of bank balances, siblings and children. … Continue reading The Voice At The Other End Of The Line
Left with a couple of hours to kill in a waiting room, I dutifully turned to Facebook and my email. What started as a simple response to an email snowballed into a flurry of emails. Switching off the iPad, I gazed at a corner of the wall and took stock of the situation. The solution … Continue reading Detachment
Most days somewhere between the time I wake and my coffee, I think about what date it is. It normally reminds me of birthdays, anniversaries or special memories associated with the day. I think about the person or persons, events, places that hold a place in my heart for that day before moving on. Some … Continue reading Remembering to forget
For the past couple of days, this is all I can think of. The V's are coming! V and V are my cousin and her daughter and they are visiting us for a week. After a longest time I will be having company at home that involves (hopefully) a lot of arratai sessions and general … Continue reading The V’s are coming!
I spent all of Sunday in the company of my little niece and my cousin whom I had not met in a year and half. Playing with my niece, feeding her, rocking her to sleep, I had no idea how the day passed. Before I knew it, it was time to go home. As she … Continue reading Stirrings of parenthood
Back at my desk after the regular status meeting our team has each week, my eyes fell on an innocuous looking email titled "Monday". I opened it to find my friend saying that Monday would be his last day with our team. I was shocked in some sense because it was too sudden. There was … Continue reading Goodbyes are hard!
K and I share our wedding anniversary with fellow blogger UL and her husband. We got married on the exact same day. Our connections go beyond that as eloquently expressed by UL here. So, since our first anniversary we have always made it a point to visit the temple and eat outside and spent time … Continue reading Traditions we create
Today a person whom I love and cherish (other than K and my family of course!) celebrates her birthday. Memories of her always make me smile. The good ones I mean 🙂 We met for the first time when we lined up to take an aptitude test in the sweltering Chennai heat in July 1997. … Continue reading Happy Birthday Dearest Friend!!!
Early yesterday morning I heard from my friend of two years that she had been let go. It took me more than a minute to understand what she was saying. The first question that crossed my mind was "Why?" Why indeed? For years, we have heard of people we know go through it. Yesterday was … Continue reading Dealing with cards you have been dealt
Packing a batch of muffins in a circular pan for a friend, I sat down with my lunch. The TV was on and playing Watching You by Rodney Atkins. I have always loved that song. I paused watching the entire song before I turned my attention to the plate again. In its own sweet way, … Continue reading Watching you, learning from you.
Helloji!! smiled the man at the counter of our local Indian grocers. "Been a while since I saw you here" he said in Gujarati accented Hindi. Saathi and I smiled, paused at bit by the counter and inquired after him and his family. "I have been wanting to reach you the past week" he emphatically … Continue reading Where have you been? Rice is 22$ a bag now!!
There were two wide eyed chatty girls moving away from home for the first time. Their daddy dears accompanied them to the then happening city that was Bangalore. Settling in to a new hostel, shopping around for essentials and getting to work first day was eventful but what followed in the years following was even … Continue reading Once upon a train
Photographs have a way of making me melancholy. I look at pictures from my past and relive the moment the picture was taken. Sitting on my desk at work is a picture of my dad in his blue collared tee shirt with red horizontal stripes spaced wide apart. He has a nice smile and his … Continue reading Then and now
Yes it is. Let me start at the beginning. I have had a few tough weeks at work earlier this year. Absolutely my doing of course. At a time when I was seriously thinking working in the US was a drag, no friends to lighten your mood up, no one to haul you over to … Continue reading Kindness is a vanilla milkshake!
I ambled down the stairs awake but not quite alert and paused for a brief moment before my 'swami ull' or praying space. I light a pair of oil lamps daily first thing after I am done brushing my teeth and before I treat myself to a steaming cup of tea. Today I felt lazy. … Continue reading The Art of Praying
This word has fascinated me many times. I heard it used by many people. I never quite got what it meant. Till yesterday. I had an epiphany. It feels good saying that. I have to go back a bit to explain what I feel. Over the years there have been many things I have craved, … Continue reading Epiphany – A sudden manifestation of the essence or meaning of something.
Reading a piece on a friend's private blog made me resonate so much with what she said that I had to write about it. She was musing about what makes friends and who are acquaintances. As I let my mind wander down the alleyways of time, I realized there are a lot of people I … Continue reading What maketh a friend?
Yes. Amma and I watched my wedding video. Full five hours of meticulous ceremonies and brightly clad people. Over the past seven years, I would have watched my wedding video probably three times in full. Yesterday as we were done dinner and sat around not knowing what to do, I had this brainwave. As we … Continue reading I was a happy bride!