Category: Adoption
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I want to adopt a child. Where do I start?
Every once in a while, I hear from friends of friends, random strangers and acquaintances as they mull the prospect of adoption. Some have done their research and their questions have to do mostly about process. Some begin at the very beginning and are looking for resources to read. Then there are the few that…
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Rumination on fears and insecurities
In a day, November will firmly belong in the past and the count down to the New Year will begin. All through this month, I have been reading and absorbing the viewpoints of Adoptees, Birth families and Adoptive families. I have been following the #FlipTheScript tag on Twitter. As I read each piece filled with…
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Awareness Not Applause
It is November. November of NaNoWriMo fame. November of Adoption Awareness fame. Over the past few years, I have stood on the sidelines watching Adoption agencies turn it into an advertising blitz. I have seen tearful paeans being sung to the institution of adoption by parents like me. I have seen angst filled posts by…
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Nature, Nurture and Why Openness in Adoption Matters
It is late morning. Ammu and Pattu are out the door, on their way to the bus-stop. Saathi is getting ready for work. The first level of our home is quiet. Laddu and I are ambling along, bending down to pick up stray pieces from the floor. We stop at the patio screen looking up…
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What She Left Behind – Cross generational tale well told
I started What She Left Behind by Ellen Marie Wiseman after dinner. I settled in, a throw over my lap, the baby monitor humming by my side. The story hooked me, reeled me in and kept the pace up. When the monitor awoke with angry cries, I pleaded with my spouse to pick her up.…
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Desi? On the fence about adoption? Read on.
Indian? Looking to adopt? Searching for adoption stories? I was you one time. Read on.
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Revisit, Reconnect, Renew
We reached in the dead of the night, picking up room keys from a sleepy employee who went through the motions of showing of where our room was and mentioning breakfast would be served from 6:30 AM to 9:30 AM. Setting an alarm for 6:00, we fell into a sleep that was deep and devoid…
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I was never the same again
The mountains shimmered in the evening sun. They looked gray, forsaken, eerily beautiful. The roads stretched like ribbons weaving in and out of the mountain town. Desolate. My eyes were vacant. My mind numb. I looked into the barrenness of the horizon and saw myself. There was no pain. Just emptiness. A good part of…
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On a day like today
On a day like today, few years back, I scanned through my emails making notes, preparing to-do lists and scanning the web for information. We had just gotten word that we were soon to be parents of twins. Just like that in a few days we would go from a couple to a couple with…