Adoption, Desi adopters, Desi Adoption, Musings, National Adoption Awareness Month, Open Adoption, Portrait Of An Adoption, Transracial Adoption

#NAM2018 National Adoption Awareness Month: What Can Adoptive Parents Do?

Each November adoptionland is rife with op-eds, hashtags, conferences, panels and social media blitzes by all members of the triad. #FlipTheScript was all I heard over the past few years. I listened hard and reflected on what I heard. Some years, I wrote about my experience with openness in the context of our lives. This […]

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Adoption, Daughters, Musings, Our Daughters

A Tale Of Two Mothers

It is dusk, the clouds have been gathering in force all through the day, threatening rain. I am in my study after what feels like ages. For a week I have been tending to my guests, cooking, cleaning, worrying and walking. Today, the house feels quiet, calm, normal. On Monday, the mother of my older […]

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Adoption

Of Kinship And Blood Ties

I feel the anxiety in the stomach, in the way I zone out while driving, in the blur of familiar landscapes, in the music that hardly registers in my brain. A few months ago, my children and I had DNA tests done. It was mostly an exercise to figure out what ancestry we each had. […]

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Adoption, Musings

Epiphany: Adoption Edition

I step past Laddu lying on the wooden floor in front of the fridge, in the throes of a magnificent meltdown. Her body heaves and lets out huge sobs, almost too big for her. Her eyes are red, her snot and slob all mixed into a runny mess on her face. I am tempted to […]

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Adoption, Milestones, Musings

On Gotcha Days And Marking Milestones

Most days like today, I clear up the kitchen, run a round of laundry, attend to chores and with one satisfying sweep through the house, I purposefully walk towards the study knowing I have earned my space and time. I start with email, quickly scan my FB feed and settle down on Twitter. I get […]

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Adoption, Musings

Of Sobfests And Deep Learnings

I walk down, groggy from a nap that did nothing to wash away the bone-deep exhaustion I am feeling. I hear the giggles quiet down, the TV is turned off and a hush descends on the home. I wince trying to ignore the effect I have on my children. We array ourselves around the kitchen […]

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Adoption, Musings

Conflicting. Conflicted.

“You ate octopus,” I say, my eyes wrinkled with laughter. I sneak glances at the back seat where all three of my children are sitting, seat belts holding them back. They are laughing. “What?!” Pattu is amused and shocked. Ammu grows quiet. “You mean we were meat eaters before you changed us?” the question is […]

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Adoption, Musings

Trip Report: Adoption Retreat AKA Lessons Learned

I returned yesterday after three days of intellectual high from being amid amazing people. This afternoon after I finally managed to get an hour to myself I realized while I have been sharing snippets from the trip on my various social media sites, I haven’t really sat down to process the many things that the […]

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