Birds, Bees And Uncomfortable Conversations


I wear my clothes, my mind on other things, frowning at the mirror as I do. I notice Ammu behind me. I continue to get dressed as she watches, curious, unrepentant.

“Why do you wear that?” she asks

I pause, unsure where I should direct the conversation.

“For support,” I say and leave it at that.

“How long have you been wearing one?” she asks.

We have this conversation in our brightly lit bathroom. I dress and she watches. We talk about puberty, about body hair, and about the need for deodorants. We talk about what it is like to see your body change. We then talk about other things. She runs off to play with her sisters and I walk out astounded by how natural it was talking to her about all things woman.

In the past couple of years, I have watched my nieces morph and change before my eyes. I have been scouting for books to help my daughters get introduced to the concept of puberty. I imagined that a year from now, I would sit my daughters down and have a mini biology lesson with awkwardness and discomfort thrown in.

What I had not counted on was how easy and unexpected it all was. Today is just the beginning, the tip of the iceberg so to speak. We will revisit these conversations over the weeks and months to come. Hopefully, it will happen the way it did today – Natural, conversational and sans agenda.

8 thoughts on “Birds, Bees And Uncomfortable Conversations

  1. It will.
    Welcome to the next phase. The preteens are the best phase of the mom daughter relationship. Very exciting and gratifying! Too bad it will be followed by the teens. Sigh!

  2. I’m not very good with uncomfortable conversations, neither were my parents and that left me very confused as a young teenager. I hope I can do better with my 3 little ones as they grow. The toughest conversation I’ve had so far was explaining to my oldest how his baby brother would be born when he asked me if I would puke him out haha

  3. Hey my daughter is 10 and we are in this phase too.. I got her the American girl books very appropriate for ages 8-13… I really liked them and she was very comfy reading those..

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