Every once in a while, a phrase catches my fancy and I chew on it for a while.
A presenter at a meeting at work used these words “Assume positive intent” a few times. Another presenter caught it and made a mention later. On my way home, the words kept repeating in my head. How easy it sounded!
If every interaction that I had at work or home started with me assuming the person speaking to me had a positive intent, would that change the way I viewed the exchange? Would it make it easier for me to respond? I reached home and got a chance to test it almost immediately. A comment on my daughters’ bunny teeth would have normally riled me up. I would have been defensive or offended. I took a deep breath and mulled it over. Perhaps it was out of concern.
May be the message was more important than the tone. There were many ways in which I could spin the conversation. How I elected to do that set the course and the mood for the rest of the evening.
As I went to bed, I repeated to myself.
Assume. Positive. Intent.