Tuesday’s class on leadership and personal development saw among other things personality profiles. We did the Myers-Briggs Assessment and I was classified an ENFP which did not surprise me one bit. As we talked about how awareness of our tendencies can help us in our personal lives one thing that the guest speaker said stood out in my mind. I may not be quoting her verbatim but the essence is not everybody may see the world the way you do and it is OK. The key is to be cognizant of this important fact and stop trying to make others specially significant others into copies of ourselves.
Driving back home already upset about my poor paper, these thoughts were relegated to the back of my mind. However, this morning as I got ready for work, it came surging forward. Perhaps, this was my way of missing K but I realized what the lady had said in class was exactly what I had to watch out for. My world was full of gregarious ideas. I hate routine and crave change. I think out loud. I can’t follow logic in making decisions. Mine are spur of moment, guided by instinct decisions. K is the exact opposite. No wonder we both have our share of disappointments. I expect him to call no matter how involved he might be in the everyday happenings out there in India. Because I would. I expect him to buy tokens of love. Because I would. The list is endless.
Because I would no longer should hold. I should be able to see the world he does. Perhaps the space he craves is not from lack of love but from a love for spending time on things he treasures. If he has to talk to me he needs undisturbed time and space both of which are sorely lacking. These are trivial examples but I could feel a light bulb go off in my head. The dawn of understanding.
Not sure how much longer the clarity will last but while I enjoy my new found way of looking at people’s actions, here is a shout out to K. Enjoy your trip and don’t bother calling. Unless you want to of course. 🙂