Where is my gift?

This past week I have been torturing K with questions and admonitions about my gift. I have given him a thousand pointers about what I would like and why I deserve a gift for my birthday. I get tickled by the torment that is evident on his face. “You are always with me, where do I have the time to pick a gift?” he pleads. Another time he says, you pick your gift, I will pay for it. Yet another moment, he says it is too much pressure.

Sitting on the steps that lead to the upper level in my home, inhaling the smell of frying Okra I reflect on what the past year has meant to me. Would this year count as the one where I reclaimed my life back? Would it be the year which saw me take baby steps to the corner office with a view? There are many ways to look at the days past since the last time I looked back at my life with a hint of reflection.

Perhaps, it is the twinkling lights that I can see from my window or the slanting rays of the Sun promising new beginnings, I can only remember positive things about the year gone by. I remember being happy most of the time. There were the meltdowns, but they were far and few in between. As a couple K and I had a remarkably amicable year. Professionally, this year has been better than any before. Friends and family have been in touch throughout and I have often woken up feeling lucky about the people in my life.

Each time K asks me to pick a gift, I look at things online but honestly can’t think of one thing that would make my life happier. The one material object that would make my Birthday memorable in a stand out way.

So, K if you are reading this today, when I ask for a gift, it does not have to be material. It could be an old picture embedded in a word doc with a note from you. Or a childish scribbling on MS Paint. It could be the offer to sit through our wedding video with me. Or leaving a note in my office mailbox for me to find. It is about the fact that I want you to let me know you are thinking of me and want to make me feel special. Women are like that you know. At least some.

It’s not that I will not appreciate the handbag I have been pestering you for :p. All I am saying is that you do not have to rush mid day today before the stores close to get it for me. :p

PS: Any of the things I have mentioned in this post are ruled out. You have to think of something original πŸ™‚

19 comments

  1. Reflective but fun post Laksh. I am glad that this past year has been good on you and wish that the coming year is even better. Wishing you with all the happiness your heart can hold. Advance b’day wishes Laksh.

    On a related note, I am like you too. I keep hinting and pestering Arvind for presents. Every time I keep saying to myself that I will be more matured about it, but nah never happens. Happy Holidays!

    @Suman: Thank you very much. I loved this line of yours. ” Every time I keep saying to myself that I will be more matured about it, but nah never happens. “. I do it all the time. Don’t think I can ever be mature about it. πŸ˜€

  2. I am like you too.I would be hoping that my husband understands what i like and make me happy on that day.I don’t need any diamonds.It could be as simple as taking me to a cinema theatre to watch a tamil/malayalam movie,going to a zoo or theme park,visiting the temple.Suurprising us with home made cards with love words,chocolates,flowers.I guess guys never understands women,their passions.
    Anyway hoping that you get a good surprise and is able to enjoy your b’day thoroughly.

    @Anila: Guess most of us are like this πŸ™‚ Thank you for the wishes. Will see if your husband takes the hint. :p

  3. Happy Birthday Laksh. Good One there Laksh. I like surprises, but my hubby does not believe in that. He cannot hold surprises. He would say whenever I tell you it is a surprise only, why to wait till that particular day or time? Anyway, hope you get something interesting from K. Happy holidays.

    @Smitha: Thank you! Haha! Am like that wrt surprises. Can’t hold any. I’ll be bursting at my seams till I spill the beans.

  4. as always………good post and lovely to read !! Happy Birthday, Laksh ! and wish you both lots and lots of good wishes for 2009 too !

    @Gayathri: Thank you very much. Wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year too!

  5. Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you. Happy birthday dear Laksh, happy birthday to you… πŸ™‚ Hope you have a wonderful surprise for your birthday, good luck K, she has pretty much touched on many possibilities, so you need to find something original πŸ™‚

    @UL: Thank you! Thank you!! Birthday is already half done with wishes from many people I know.

  6. Happy Birthday Lakshmi! Hope you have a wonderful surprise for your birthday. Enjoy your day.

    @Sudha: Thank you very much. No surprises here. We went shopping this afternoon to get my bag. πŸ™‚

  7. K, basically you run for life to a mall before it is closed, and get her that bag:) . Happy Birthday Laksh! enjoy your day, don’t forget the kaapi.God bless
    shy

    @Shy: K did take your advice and I have the bag :p Thank you for your wishes and yes day will start with strong decoction kaapi.

  8. Appy Appy Birthday, Laksh. I think K seems to be the sort of person who would definitely take the hint or a complete post:) Hope he does and let the year brings you much happiness in every way which way you desire.

    @Sachita: Thank you very much. It has started out to be a good one for now πŸ™‚

  9. okay!! bhaiya has some real serious work to do!! lol…
    the blog is a li’l awwwwwwwww and the ‘childish you’ is pretty cute!! Wishing you a very happy birthday and an amazing year ahead! Love. πŸ˜€

    @Shalu: you bet! we did go shopping this afternoon πŸ™‚

  10. Many more Happpy returns of the day! Definitely K will surprise you with a wonderful and lovely gift πŸ™‚
    Enjoy and have fun. Wishing you from all of us once again a very very happy birthday….

    @Abi: Thank you very much. My day has started out to be great. talk to you tomorrow.

  11. Laksh! Many more happy returns of the day!!! :–)
    Do let us know what your husband got you!

    @SK: Thank you very much. Will definitely do. Thats for a whole another post πŸ™‚

  12. Belated B’day Wishes Laksh. May the new born Christ today bring you all happiness and peace for you ever. Wow.. what a post Laksh??? Women and their funnily cunning ways to trap their Husbands. But you are absolutely right!!! Husbands should at least understand material gifts alone need not or will not bring happiness as always (Not applicable if they are platinum or diamond). A Candle light dinner, surprise cinema of our favourite stars, a long drive,, what not??? Why are these “Men” so dump to THINK to surprise their “Women”???… But after all they are our beloved know. Vidunga Mannichu Vitralaam… Have Fun Laksh…Expecting your post on what you’ve got as gift, too..

    @Deepa: I did have a nice, quiet day with family and a trip to the temple. Next post on the way.

  13. Oh Ya Laksh after posting my comment I glanced thro the other posts…what a frequency Anila and I share know…Its amazing…

    @Deepa: Not sure if Anila saw this. I will be sure to let her know.

  14. Happy Birthday Laksh!!! Hope you are having a wonderful day and wish you a wonderful year ahead.

    Wish next year fulfill all your wishes. Enjoy your day!!!

    @Manchus: Thank you da. Hope you guys are having a fun holiday too.

  15. Thanks for dropping by Laksh. I have so much to ramble in this topic. Let me try to keep it short and sensible to some extent.

    I think the reason men (especially Indian husbands) are not able to understand what women (especially wives) want is they don’t have an example to follow. They have not seen their fathers surprising their moms, helping around the house etc. They are still living in our previous generation’s mentality but slowly taking baby steps towards the place where we want them to be. On the other hand we women have come a looooooooonnnnng way, when compared to our mothers, be it education, work or everything for that matter. So I guess there is this generation gap even between the husband and wife or simply their RQ (romance quotient) deteriorates as they age!

    @Madhuram: Very well put. You have expressed it very nicely.

  16. Many amny happy returns of the day, Laksh.
    Wishing you and K wonderful years ahead…..I love gifts…and I go an extra mile in suprising friends and family with unexpected gifts…I just love that beautiful expression on their faces when they open the gift…. and also want to be surprised the same way….doens’t have to be at all materialistic….we women have a weakness for such mush… I feel….ain’t it? and I drop extremely open hints to S too..all the time πŸ™‚

    @Rupa: Thank you very much. I used to be like that. Been a while since I have hunted for bday gifts for friends. Used to do that in Bangalore.

  17. Happy birthday lakshmi ! may all your dreams come true . have a wonderful newyear 2009!

    @Hema: Thank you very much! How are you all doing? Happy New Year to you too!

  18. Haha.. Poor K.. You’ve left him with hardly any choice. Btw.. I loved the idea of watching the wedding video together. I hope I can get my husband to do that at least before our 25th anniversary.

    @Rekha: I know πŸ™‚ He rose up to the challenge admirably. Good luck with the wedding video watching. Might need some tricking or emotional blackmail or both πŸ™‚

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